Friday, February 26, 2010
More Blessed To Give
“It is more blessed to give than to receive.”
Acts 20:35
Paul was saying farewell to elders of the church in Ephesus. He instructs them to feed and shepherd God’s flock, entrusts them with God’s word and gives them advice on giving. Not having to think too deeply because time after time I’ve received much more blessings through giving than by receiving. Whether through giving monetarily such as to the needy or certain ministry, giving of time as a volunteer or lending of self such as a hand, an ear or my heart to help someone in need, I have got much blessings. Psalm 112:9 says, “They share freely and give generously to those in need.Their good deeds will be remembered forever. They will have influence and honor.” Further, Proverbs 11:24-25 says “Give freely and become more wealthy; be stingy and lose everything. The generous will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed.”
Hence, I hope we all reminded that it is more blessed to give than to receive. Not only remember but more importantly to do giving. Try it!
Homekeeping
"The job of keeping a home is an honorable one.
There is a difference between a housekeeper and a homekeeper.
A hired housekeeper will keep the home clean and do
the duties as expected of her employer, but a homekeeper
does the duties in her home from her heart.
She does it out of love for her family. She looks upon
her duties as the most important job in all the world.
It takes a lot of patience, skill, commitment
and love to be a keeper of your home.
Be faithful; in due time,
your family will rise up and call you blessed."
~Mrs. Martha Greene
Treasury of Vintage Homekeeping Skills
Wishing all of you a very... "Fruitful Recess!"
"She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all."
Proverbs 31:27-29
Monday, February 22, 2010
How Does God Want to Use Me In Other's Lives
“I exhort therefore, that . . . prayers . . . be made . . . for all that are in authority”
1 Timothy 2:1-2
Do I faithfully pray for the leaders that God has placed in my life (e.g.parents, cell group leaders, pastor, employer, government), asking God to bless them, to meet their needs, to protect them, and to make them godly leaders?
When someone in a position of authority fails, do I pray for them, rather than criticizing or attacking them?
“She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness”
Proverbs 31:27
Am I a hard worker?
Am I attentive to the needs of those around me?
Am I faithful in fulfilling practical responsibilities in my home?
“. . . well known for her good deeds, such as bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the saints, helping those in trouble and devoting herself to all kinds of good deeds”
1 Timothy 5:10
Is my life characterized by compassion, sacrifice, and acts of service?
Do I have a reputation for reaching out to minister to the needs of others?
“Share with God’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality”
Romans 12:13
Am I sensitive to the needs of other believers?
Am I generous in sharing with others who are in need?
Do I open my home to minister to others?
“Teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good”
Titus 2:3
Is my life a godly example to younger women?
Am I self-controlled and temperate in the way I speak and in my lifestyle?
Am I actively involved in teaching younger women how to live their lives according to the Word of God?
“Train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God”
Titus 2:4–5
Are my priorities in order? God, family,study/career?
Am I adequately focused on loving and meeting the needs of my family?
Do I model a selfless, sacrificial, serving love for my family?
Is my spirit self-controlled, pure, and kind?
Saturday, February 20, 2010
How Does A Woman of God Conduct Herself
“All the city . . . doth know that thou art a virtuous woman”
Ruth 3:11
Do I have a reputation for being a woman of virtue and godly character?
Do I keep myself pure from all influences that could defile my heart, thoughts, or actions?
“She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness” Proverbs 31:26
Do I bless my family, friends by speaking words that are kind and wise?
Do I study and meditate on the Word of God so that I can know how to speak wise words?
Am I able to give people to specific Scriptures that apply to their lives and needs?
“Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone” Proverbs 25:15
Am I willing to wait quietly for God to change the heart of an authority that I feel is wrong, rather than pushing or nagging?
Do I seek to influence others by gentle words, rather than controlling them with harsh words?
“A woman should learn in quietness and full submission”
1 Timothy 2:11
Do I have a teachable spirit?
Do I receive instruction with an obedient spirit?
“It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman”
Proverbs 21:19
Does my spirit make it easy for those I live or work with to be around me?
Do I frustrate others or make them want to stay away from me because of an angry spirit?
Friday, February 19, 2010
What Makes A Beautiful Woman
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment . . . . Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit”
1 Peter 3:3–4
Do others see in me an inner radiance and beauty that are the result of a grateful, gentle spirit?
Do I focus more time and effort on cultivating inner spiritual beauty than I do on matters of external beauty?
“This is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful”
1 Peter 3:5
Am I more concerned about being holy than about being happy?
Am I placing my hope and trust in God rather than in people?
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”
Proverbs 31:30
Am I more concerned about cultivating my relationship with the Lord than about being fashionable, stylish, or physically attractive?
Do I live in the constant, conscious recognition of the presence of God?
Do I desire to please God more than I desire the approval of others?
“I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety”
1 Timothy 2:9
Do I dress modestly?
Do my clothing styles encourage men to think pure thoughts, rather than stimulating them to have sensual thoughts or desires?
Do I dress in such way to draw attention to the heart and spirit of Jesus within me, rather than to my physical body?
“. . . not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes”
1 Timothy 2:9
Do I avoid extreme or excessive fashions (hair, clothing, jewelry, make-up) that could draw attention to myself or cause people to be distracted?
Do I avoid extravagant jewelry or clothing that could show my wealth or cause others to be envious?
Do my clothes and outward appearance portray a spirit of moderation, purity?
Thursday, February 18, 2010
White Angel Pancake
Serving size: 4
Ingredients:
150 gram tepung terigu
50 gram gula halus
10 gram baking powder
1 sdt vanili
2 butir telur
150 ml susu cair
60 gr mentega
Directions:
1. Campur terigu,gula halus,vanili dan baking powder, aduk rata.
2. Masukkan telur dan susu cair, aduk hingga rata.
3. Masukkan mentega cair, aduk terus hingga rata dengan mixer sekitar 4 menit.
4. Panaskan pan dadar diameter 10 cm. Tuang adonan, masak hingga permukaan bergelembung, balik, angkat jika pancake sudah sedikit mengembang. Lakukan hal yang sama hingga bahan habis.
Sajikan dengan es krim vanila dan potongan biscuit kelapa.
Love, Forgive, Help and Serve Regardless
“And so, brothers, select seven men who are well respected and are full of the Spirit and wisdom. We will give them this responsibility.”
Acts 6:3
In this context, believers grumble over food. Further twelve apostles find themselves burdened with administering the food program, instead of spending time preaching and teaching. To solve this problem, their resolution is to delegate the responsibility. They choose seven men based on 3 attributes being — well-respected, full of the Spirit and wisdom.
As I reflect on this several thoughts speak to my heart. First, some things never seem to change. Doesn’t the grumbling sound similar to what Moses faced with the Israelites in the desert after leaving Egypt? This also happen in today's time. Maybe not so much about food but still a lot of grumble and discontentment. Such as among members attending church service while expecting ushers to serve as if they are at a paid event. Next, some things do change. This time not with the people but now with the apostles. Unfortunately, not always for the better. In Matthew 14, we can see what Jesus told the disciples when they wanted Him to send the crowd of five thousand away to the village to buy food for themselves. He said in Verse 16 “…That isn’t necessary—you feed them.” In other words, Jesus want the disciples not only to teach and preach but also to meet the needs of people through serving. As I’ve learned, lessons are often best taught and preached through action.
Overall, we acknowledge and understand grumbling and discontentment will always exist. Thus love, forgive, help and serve regardless. Also, to remember to walk the talk as often as opportunities come my way. For action, many times speak louder than mere words. Therefore once again love, forgive, help and serve by doing more, talking less and regardless.
God bless you.
The Titus 2 Woman
"Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God."
Titus 2:3-5
I have been blessed to look up to a few godly women in my life. God called me into His Kingdom to serve Christ and others. However, He does not call His children into the Kingdom alone. He calls us to rejoice with the brethren, have fellowship and grow in the grace and knowledge of Him.
One of the most important Titus 2 relationships we should have with a woman should be with our mother.
I have been blessed to have a strong, healthy, and rich relationship with my mother, a relationship that has been open, truthful and most importantly Christ centered. As young women we must be quick to listen, slow to speak and humble enough to admit our sin and be willing to listen to our mothers who the Lord has given.
I know personally that it can be hard to take correction... but we must be willing to take correction...if we want to grow.
"Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." ~ Proverbs 27:6
This being said, however,I understand that not all young women will ever have a strong Titus 2 bond with their mothers since we do still live in an fallen world, where many young Christian ladies might have moms that have died or some might even have moms that are non believers. But please let this not keep you from the rich hope of finding a Titus 2 mentor who can be a spiritual woman after God's own heart for you.
Seek out older women in church to be your Titus 2 mentor or spiritual mother,. The godly mentor you may find may be a woman in Christ who has never bore any earthly children, or a godly woman who has bore many and is in her Grandma stage of life!
Whatever stage of life she is in, before you seek her out to assume this awesome and important role, make sure she is a woman who is~
-fully devoted to Christ
-her heart is turned towards home
-she is a woman who sees her mission in life first to serve Christ and then to serve others.
-she is a woman who submits joyfully to godly authority.... (husband, elders in church etc)
To those younger women who think they are not a Titus 2 influence or a spiritual sister to anyone, let me assure you.... you are indeed! You might not be aware that anyone is watching you but let me tell you they might be! It could be little kid who is only five or six years old..... who is watching you from a distance...... admiring your modesty, feminity and even your respectful attitude toward your parents.
You can show them that modesty is lovely, femininity is beautiful and that respecting parents is somethinggood.
To the many godly woman, be assured of your noble calling in "training the younger women" in what things are good! Please be aware that we need this vision, hope and encouragement from those who have gone before us and walked paths that we have never walked.
And finally I dedicate this article to my dear mother.... who gave birth to me... who has loved me...
and who has encouraged me greatly in the ways of Christ and in the like manner of Titus 2.
Pope Driver
After getting all of Pope John Paul's luggage loaded into the limo (and he doesn't travel light), the driver notices that the Pope is still standing on the curb. "Excuse me, Your Holiness," says the driver, "Would you please take your seat so we can leave?" "Well, to tell you the truth," says the Pope," they never let me drive at the Vatican, and I'd really like to drive today."
"I'm sorry but I cannot let you do that. I'd lose my job! And what if something should happen?" protests the driver, wishing he'd never gone to work that morning.
"There might be something extra in it for you," says the Pope.
Reluctantly, the driver gets in the back as the Pope climbs in behind the wheel. The driver quickly regrets his decision when, after exiting the airport, the Pontiff floors it, accelerating the limo to 105 mph.
"Please slow down, Your Holiness!!!" pleads the worried driver, but the Pope keeps the pedal to the metal until they hear sirens.
"Oh, dear God, I'm gonna lose my license," moans the driver.
The Pope pulls over and rolls down the window as the cop approaches, but the cop takes one look at him, goes back to his motorcycle, and gets on the radio.
"I need to talk to the Chief," he says to the dispatcher.
The Chief gets on the radio and the cop tells him that he's stopped a limo going a hundred and five.
"So bust him," says the Chief.
"I don't think we want to do that, he's really important," said the cop.
The Chief exclaimed, "All the more reason!"
"No, I mean really important," said the cop.
The Chief then asked, "Who ya got there, the Mayor?"
Cop: "Bigger."
Chief: "Governor?"
Cop: "Bigger."
"Well," said the Chief, "Who is it?"
Cop: "I think it's God!"
Chief: "What makes you think it's God?"
Cop: "He's got the Pope as a driver!!
"I'm sorry but I cannot let you do that. I'd lose my job! And what if something should happen?" protests the driver, wishing he'd never gone to work that morning.
"There might be something extra in it for you," says the Pope.
Reluctantly, the driver gets in the back as the Pope climbs in behind the wheel. The driver quickly regrets his decision when, after exiting the airport, the Pontiff floors it, accelerating the limo to 105 mph.
"Please slow down, Your Holiness!!!" pleads the worried driver, but the Pope keeps the pedal to the metal until they hear sirens.
"Oh, dear God, I'm gonna lose my license," moans the driver.
The Pope pulls over and rolls down the window as the cop approaches, but the cop takes one look at him, goes back to his motorcycle, and gets on the radio.
"I need to talk to the Chief," he says to the dispatcher.
The Chief gets on the radio and the cop tells him that he's stopped a limo going a hundred and five.
"So bust him," says the Chief.
"I don't think we want to do that, he's really important," said the cop.
The Chief exclaimed, "All the more reason!"
"No, I mean really important," said the cop.
The Chief then asked, "Who ya got there, the Mayor?"
Cop: "Bigger."
Chief: "Governor?"
Cop: "Bigger."
"Well," said the Chief, "Who is it?"
Cop: "I think it's God!"
Chief: "What makes you think it's God?"
Cop: "He's got the Pope as a driver!!
The Pirate, What Is My Name
A pirate walked into a bar and the bartender said : 'Hey, I haven't seen you in a while. What happened? You look terrible.'
'What do you mean?' said the pirate, 'I feel fine.'
Bartender: 'What about the wooden leg? You didn't have that before.'
Pirate: 'Well, we were in a battle and I got hit with a cannon ball, but I'm fine now.'
Bartender: 'Well, ok, but what about that hook? What happened to your hand?'
Pirate: 'We were in another battle. I boarded a ship and got into a sword fight. My hand was cut off. I got fitted with a hook. I'm fine, really...'
Bartender: 'What about that eye patch?'
Pirate: 'Oh, one day we were at sea and a flock of birds flew over. I looked up and one of them s**t in my eye.'
Bartender: 'You're kidding, you lost an eye just from bird s**t?'
Pirate: 'It was my first day with the hook.'
***
It was the first day of school:
TEACHER: Hi there what is your name?
KID: I don't know.
TEACHER: Well I don't usually give homework on the first day, but go home and find what your name is.
KID: Okay!
AT HOME IN THE KITCHEN:
KID: Mom what is my name?
MOM, COOKING: Shut up and leave me a lone.
LIVING ROOM:
KID: Brother what is my name?
BROTHER ON BATMAN GAME: DUNNA Batman!
IN SISTER"S ROOM:
KID: Sister what is my name?
SISTER WHO IS SINGING: Thats the way haha i like it!
LAST BUT NOT LEAST:
KID: Dad what is my name?
DAD IN BATHROOM SINGING: 50 rolls of toilet paper!
NEXT DAY AT SCHOOL:
TEACHER: So what's your name?
KID: Shut up and leave me alone.
TEACHER: What??
KID: Dunna Batman!
TEACHER: Do you want detention for that?
KID: Thats the way haha i like it!
TEACHER: What do you want from me?
KID: 50 rolls of toilet paper!
'What do you mean?' said the pirate, 'I feel fine.'
Bartender: 'What about the wooden leg? You didn't have that before.'
Pirate: 'Well, we were in a battle and I got hit with a cannon ball, but I'm fine now.'
Bartender: 'Well, ok, but what about that hook? What happened to your hand?'
Pirate: 'We were in another battle. I boarded a ship and got into a sword fight. My hand was cut off. I got fitted with a hook. I'm fine, really...'
Bartender: 'What about that eye patch?'
Pirate: 'Oh, one day we were at sea and a flock of birds flew over. I looked up and one of them s**t in my eye.'
Bartender: 'You're kidding, you lost an eye just from bird s**t?'
Pirate: 'It was my first day with the hook.'
***
It was the first day of school:
TEACHER: Hi there what is your name?
KID: I don't know.
TEACHER: Well I don't usually give homework on the first day, but go home and find what your name is.
KID: Okay!
AT HOME IN THE KITCHEN:
KID: Mom what is my name?
MOM, COOKING: Shut up and leave me a lone.
LIVING ROOM:
KID: Brother what is my name?
BROTHER ON BATMAN GAME: DUNNA Batman!
IN SISTER"S ROOM:
KID: Sister what is my name?
SISTER WHO IS SINGING: Thats the way haha i like it!
LAST BUT NOT LEAST:
KID: Dad what is my name?
DAD IN BATHROOM SINGING: 50 rolls of toilet paper!
NEXT DAY AT SCHOOL:
TEACHER: So what's your name?
KID: Shut up and leave me alone.
TEACHER: What??
KID: Dunna Batman!
TEACHER: Do you want detention for that?
KID: Thats the way haha i like it!
TEACHER: What do you want from me?
KID: 50 rolls of toilet paper!
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Karena Cinta..
Karena Cinta Tidak Selalu Harus Berwujud Bunga
Suami saya adalah seorang yang sederhana, saya mencintai sifatnya yang alami dan saya menyukai perasaan hangat yang muncul di perasaan saya, ketika saya bersandar di bahunya yang bidang.
Tiga tahun dalam masa perkenalan, dan dua tahun dalam masa pernikahan, saya harus akui, bahwa saya mulai merasa lelah, alasan-alasan saya mencintainya dulu telah berubah menjadi sesuatu yang menjemukan.
Saya seorang wanita yang sentimentil dan benar-benar sensitif serta berperasaan halus.
Saya merindukan saat-saat romantis seperti seorang anak yang menginginkan permen.
Tetapi semua itu tidak pernah saya dapatkan.
Suami saya jauh berbeda dari yang saya harapkan. Rasa sensitif-nya kurang.
Dan ketidakmampuannya dalam menciptakan suasana yang romantis dalam pernikahan kami telah mementahkan semua harapan saya akan cinta yang ideal.
Suatu hari, saya beranikan diri untuk mengatakan keputusan saya kepadanya, bahwa saya menginginkan perceraian.
"Mengapa?", tanya suami saya dengan terkejut.
"Saya lelah, kamu tidak pernah bisa memberikan cinta yang saya inginkan," jawab saya.....
Suami saya terdiam dan termenung sepanjang malam di depan komputernya, tampak seolah-olah sedang mengerjakan sesuatu, padahal tidak..
Kekecewaan saya semakin bertambah, seorang pria yang bahkan tidak dapat mengekspresikan perasaannya, apalagi yang bisa saya harapkan darinya?
Dan akhirnya suami saya bertanya, "Apa yang dapat saya lakukan untuk merubah pikiran kamu?"
Saya menatap matanya dalam-dalam dan menjawab dengan pelan,"Saya punya pertanyaan, jika kau dapat menemukan jawabannya di dalam perasaan saya, saya akan merubah pikiran saya :
"Seandainya, saya menyukai setangkai bunga indah yg ada di tebing gunung.
Kita berdua tahu jika kamu memanjat gunung itu, kamu akan mati.
Apakah kamu akan memetik bunga itu untuk saya?"
Dia termenung dan akhirnya berkata, "Saya akan memberikan jawabannya besok."
Perasaan saya langsung gundah mendengar responnya.
Keesokan paginya, dia tidak ada di rumah, dan saya menemukan selembar kertas dengan oret-oretan tangannya dibawah sebuah gelas yang berisi susu hangat yang bertuliskan ......
"Sayang, saya tidak akan mengambil bunga itu untukmu, tetapi ijinkan saya untuk menjelaskan alasannya."
Kalimat pertama ini menghancurkan perasaan saya.
Saya melanjutkan untuk membacanya.
"Kamu selalu sakit dan pegal-pegal pada waktu 'datang bulan setiap bulannya, dan saya harus memberikan tangan saya untuk memijat kaki kamu yang pegal dan mengoleskan minyak di perut kamu."
"Kamu senang diam di rumah, dan saya selalu kuatir kamu akan menjadi 'aneh'.
Saya harus membelikan sesuatu yang dapat menghibur kamu di rumah atau meminjamkan lidah saya untuk menceritakan hal-hal lucu yang saya alami."
"Kamu selalu terlalu dekat menonton televisi, terlalu dekat membaca buku, dan itu tidak baik untuk kesehatan mata kamu. Saya harus menjaga mata saya agar ketika kita tua nanti, saya masih dapat menolong mengguntingkan kuku kamu dan mencabuti uban kamu."
"Tangan saya akan memegang tangan kamu, membimbing kamu menelusuri pantai, menikmati matahari pagi dan pasir yang indah. Menceritakan warna-warna bunga yang bersinar dan indah seperti cantiknya wajah kamu."
"Tetapi Sayang, saya tidak akan mengambil bunga indah yang ada di tebing gunung itu hanya untuk mati. Karena, saya tidak sanggup melihat air mata kamu mengalir.
"Sayang, saya tahu, ada banyak orang yang bisa mencintai kamu lebih dari saya mencintai kamu. Untuk itu Sayang, jika semua yang telah diberikan tangan saya, kaki saya, mata saya tidak cukup buat kamu, saya tidak bisa menahan kamu untuk mencari tangan, kaki, dan mata lain yang dapat membahagiakan kamu..."
Air mata saya jatuh ke atas tulisannya dan membuat tintanya menjadi kabur, tetapi saya tetap berusaha untuk terus membacanya.
"Dan sekarang, Sayang, kamu telah selesai membaca jawaban saya.
Jika kamu puas dengan semua jawaban ini, dan tetap menginginkan saya untuk tinggal di rumah ini, tolong bukakan pintu rumah kita, saya sekarang sedang berdiri di sana menunggu jawaban kamu."
"Jika kamu tidak puas dengan jawaban saya ini, Sayang, biarkan saya masuk untuk membereskan barang-barang saya, dan saya tidak akan mempersulit hidup kamu. Percayalah, bahagia saya adalah bila kamu bahagia."
Saya segera berlari membuka pintu dan melihatnya berdiri di depan pintu dengan wajah penasaran sambil tangannya memegang susu dan roti kesukaan saya..
Oh, kini saya tahu, tidak ada orang yang pernah mencintai saya lebih dari dia mencintai saya.
Itulah cinta, di saat kita merasa cinta itu telah berangsur-angsur hilang dari perasaan kita, karena kita merasa dia tidak dapat memberikan cinta dalam wujud yang kita inginkan, maka cinta itu sesungguhnya telah hadir dalam wujud lain yang tidak pernah kita bayangkan sebelumnya.
Seringkali yang kita butuhkan adalah memahami wujud cinta dari pasangan kita, dan bukan mengharapkan wujud tertentu.
Karena cinta tidak selalu harus berwujud "bunga". Tetapi kasih sayang yg tulus.
Thoughts For The Day
Bersepeda Bersama Yesus
Pada awalnya, aku memandang Tuhan sebagai seorang pengamat;
seorang hakim yang mencatat segala kesalahanku, sebagai bahan
pertimbangan apakah aku akan dimasukkan ke surga atau dicampakkan
ke dalam neraka pada saat aku mati. Dia terasa jauh sekali, seperti
seorang raja. Aku tahu Dia melalui gambar-gambar-Nya, tetapi
aku tidak mengenal-Nya..
Ketika aku bertemu Yesus, pandanganku berubah. Hidupku menjadi
bagaikan sebuah arena balap sepeda, tetapi sepedanya adalah sepeda
tandem, dan aku tahu bahwa Yesus duduk di belakang, membantu
aku mengayuh pedal sepeda.
Aku tidak tahu sejak kapan Yesus mengajakku bertukar tempat,
tetapi sejak itu hidupku jadi berubah. Saat aku pegang kendali, aku
tahu jalannya, namun terasa membosankan. Tetapi, di saat Yesus
yang memegang kendali, Ia tahu jalan yang panjang dan menyenangkan.
Ia membawaku mendaki gunung, juga melewati batu-batu karang
yang terjal dengan kecepatan yang menegangkan. Saat-saat seperti
itu, aku hanya bisa menggantungkan diriku sepenuhnya pada-Nya!
Terkadang rasanya seperti sesuatu yang 'gila', tetapi Ia
berkata, "Ayo, kayuh terus pedalnya!"
Aku takut, khawatir dan bertanya, "Aku mau dibawa ke mana?"
Yesus tertawa dan tak menjawab, dan aku mulai belajar percaya.
Aku melupakan kehidupan yang membosankan dan memasuki
suatu petualangan baru yang mencengangkan.
Dan ketika aku berkata, "Aku takut!" Yesus menurunkan kecepatan,
mengayuh santai sambil menggenggam tanganku.
Ia membawaku kepada orang-orang yang menyediakan hadiah-hadiah
yang aku perlukan. Orang-orang itu membantu menyembuhkan aku,
mereka menerimaku dan memberiku sukacita. Mereka membekaliku
dengan hal-hal yang aku perlukan untuk melanjutkan perjalanan ..
perjalananku bersama Tuhanku.
Lalu, kami pun kembali mengayuh sepeda kami. Kemudian, Yesus
berkata, "Berikan hadiah-hadiah itu kepada orang-orang yang
membutuhkannya; jika tidak, hadiah-hadiah itu akan menjadi
beban bagi kita."
Maka, aku pun melakukannya. Aku membagi-bagikan hadiah-hadiah itu
kepada orang-orang yang kami jumpai, sesuai kebutuhan mereka. Aku
belajar bahwa ternyata memberi adalah sesuatu yang membahagiakan.
Pada mulanya, aku tidak ingin mempercayakan hidupku sepenuhnya
kepadaNya. Aku takut Ia menjadikan hidupku berantakan; tetapi
Yesus tahu rahasia mengayuh sepeda. Ia tahu bagaimana menikung di
tikungan tajam, Ia tahu bagaimana melompati batu karang yang tinggi,
Ia tahu bagaimana terbang untuk mempercepat melewati
tempat-tempat yang menakutkan.
Aku belajar untuk diam sementara terus mengayuh.
menikmati pemandangan dan semilir angin sepoi-sepoi
yang menerpa wajahku selama perjalanan bersama
Sahabatku yang setia: Yesus Kristus.
Dan ketika aku tidak tahu apa lagi yang harus aku lakukan, Yesus
tersenyum dan berkata. "Mengayuhlah terus, Aku bersamamu."
(Sumber : “Thoughts For The Day” by Chuck Ebbs)
Benefits of Prayer
Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. (Luke 18:1)
When we spend regular, daily time in prayer with God, we will experience a deeper relationship with Him. I just want to share a few blessings of prayer that became mine. These blessings can become yours as well =)
Prayer increases faith - I heard that a good way to grow in faith in God was to keep a prayer list. With my list in hand, I began to concern about my family, friends and myself to God each day. I was amazed as I can see how He answered one by one! So, each prayer, each answer, grows my faith in Him.
Prayer provides a place to release burdens - When we begin each day tell God our burdens and ask Him for help, we can then rise up and relieved. He cannot take our burden, unless we let it go.
Prayer assures that God is near - What should we do when trouble comes? When we don’t know what to do? I had the opportunity to find it out in these little experiences lately. It was raining heavily and I didn’t bring any umbrella. As I pray to God while walking outside my class, the rain stopped. In awe, I praised Him and walked home. After I arrived at my room, the heavy rain poured again. Feels like a miracle for me! The more we pray, the more we are reminded of God’s presence in our time of need.
Prayer makes us not to panic - We are not to give in, stress, or panic under pressure. We should pray instead. Turning to God to pray can replace the tendency to panic when problems come.
Prayer improves relationships - As we cannot think about ourselves and others at same time, we also cannot hate the person we are praying for, therefore as we bring them in our prayer, we will love and care more about them.
Prayer changes you - Maybe you have heard the phrase “Prayer Changes Things”. But once you develop a regular daily prayer life, I’m sure you’ll realize that “prayer changes you”!
Friends, we are blessed to enjoy the privilege of prayer, talking with our God.
May your heart be encouraged to pray.
God bless you.
When we spend regular, daily time in prayer with God, we will experience a deeper relationship with Him. I just want to share a few blessings of prayer that became mine. These blessings can become yours as well =)
Prayer increases faith - I heard that a good way to grow in faith in God was to keep a prayer list. With my list in hand, I began to concern about my family, friends and myself to God each day. I was amazed as I can see how He answered one by one! So, each prayer, each answer, grows my faith in Him.
Prayer provides a place to release burdens - When we begin each day tell God our burdens and ask Him for help, we can then rise up and relieved. He cannot take our burden, unless we let it go.
Prayer assures that God is near - What should we do when trouble comes? When we don’t know what to do? I had the opportunity to find it out in these little experiences lately. It was raining heavily and I didn’t bring any umbrella. As I pray to God while walking outside my class, the rain stopped. In awe, I praised Him and walked home. After I arrived at my room, the heavy rain poured again. Feels like a miracle for me! The more we pray, the more we are reminded of God’s presence in our time of need.
Prayer makes us not to panic - We are not to give in, stress, or panic under pressure. We should pray instead. Turning to God to pray can replace the tendency to panic when problems come.
Prayer improves relationships - As we cannot think about ourselves and others at same time, we also cannot hate the person we are praying for, therefore as we bring them in our prayer, we will love and care more about them.
Prayer changes you - Maybe you have heard the phrase “Prayer Changes Things”. But once you develop a regular daily prayer life, I’m sure you’ll realize that “prayer changes you”!
Friends, we are blessed to enjoy the privilege of prayer, talking with our God.
May your heart be encouraged to pray.
God bless you.
This is My Dad
YANG TIDAK BISA DIUCAPKAN PAPA
Biasanya, bagi seorang anak perempuan yang
sudah dewasa, yang sedang kuliah jauh
dari kedua orang tuanya.....
Akan sering merasa kangen sekali dengan Mamanya.
Lalu bagaimana dengan Papa?
Mungkin karena Mama lebih sering menelepon
untuk menanyakan keadaanmu setiap hari, tapi tahukah kamu, jika ternyata
Papa-lah yang mengingatkan Mama untuk menelponmu?
Mungkin dulu sewaktu kamu kecil, Mama-lah
yang lebih sering mengajakmu bercerita atau berdongeng, tapi tahukah kamu,
bahwa sepulang Papa bekerja dan dengan wajah lelah Papa selalu menanyakan
pada Mama tentang kabarmu dan apa yang kau lakukan seharian?
Pada saat dirimu masih seorang anak perempuan
kecil......
Papa biasanya mengajari putri kecilnya naik
sepeda.
Dan setelah Papa mengganggapmu bisa, Papa
akan melepaskan roda bantu di sepedamu...
Kemudian Mama bilang : "Jangan dulu
Papa, jangan dilepas dulu roda bantunya" ,
Mama takut putri manisnya terjatuh lalu terluka....
Tapi sadarkah kamu?
Bahwa Papa dengan yakin akan membiarkanmu,
menatapmu, dan menjagamu mengayuh sepeda dengan seksama karena dia tahu
putri kecilnya PASTI BISA.
Pada saat kamu menangis merengek meminta
boneka atau mainan yang baru, Mama menatapmu iba.
Tetapi Papa akan mengatakan dengan tegas
: "Boleh, kita beli nanti, tapi tidak sekarang"
Tahukah kamu, Papa melakukan itu karena Papa
tidak ingin kamu menjadi anak yang manja dengan semua tuntutan yang selalu
dapat dipenuhi?
Saat kamu sakit pilek, Papa yang terlalu
khawatir sampai kadang sedikit membentak dengan berkata : "Sudah di
bilang! kamu jangan minum air dingin!".
Berbeda dengan Mama yang memperhatikan dan
menasihatimu dengan lembut.
Ketahuilah, saat itu Papa benar-benar mengkhawatirkan
keadaanmu.
Ketika kamu sudah beranjak remaja....
Kamu mulai menuntut pada Papa untuk dapat
izin keluar malam, dan Papa bersikap tegas dan mengatakan: "Tidak
boleh!".
Tahukah kamu, bahwa Papa melakukan itu untuk
menjagamu?
Karena bagi Papa, kamu adalah sesuatu yang
sangat - sangat luar biasa berharga..
Setelah itu kamu marah pada Papa, dan masuk
ke kamar sambil membanting pintu...
Dan yang datang mengetok pintu dan membujukmu
agar tidak marah adalah Mama....
Tahukah kamu, bahwa saat itu Papa memejamkan
matanya dan menahan gejolak dalam batinnya,
Bahwa Papa sangat ingin mengikuti keinginanmu,
Tapi lagi-lagi dia HARUS menjagamu?
Ketika saat seorang cowok mulai sering menelponmu,
atau bahkan datang ke rumah untuk menemuimu, Papa akan memasang wajah paling
cool sedunia.... :')
Papa sesekali menguping atau mengintip saat
kamu sedang ngobrol berdua di ruang tamu..
Sadarkah kamu, kalau Papa merasa waspada?
Saat kamu mulai lebih dipercaya, dan Papa
melonggarkan sedikit peraturan untuk keluar rumah untukmu, kamu akan memaksa
untuk melanggar jam malamnya.
Maka yang dilakukan Papa adalah duduk di
ruang tamu, dan menunggumu pulang dengan hati yang sangat khawatir...
Dan setelah perasaan khawatir itu berlarut- larut...
Ketika melihat putri kecilnya pulang larut malam
hati Papa akan mengeras dan Papa memarahimu.. .
Sadarkah kamu, bahwa ini karena hal yang
di sangat ditakuti Papa akan segera datang?
"Bahwa putri kecilnya akan segera pergi
meninggalkan Papa"
Setelah lulus SMA, Papa akan sedikit memaksamu
untuk menjadi seorang Entrepreneur.
Ketahuilah, bahwa seluruh paksaan yang dilakukan
Papa itu semata - mata hanya karena memikirkan masa depanmu nanti...
Tapi toh Papa tetap tersenyum dan mendukungmu
saat pilihanmu tidak sesuai dengan keinginan Papa
Ketika kamu menjadi gadis dewasa....
Dan kamu harus pergi kuliah di negara lain....
Papa harus melepasmu di bandara.
Tahukah kamu bahwa badan Papa terasa kaku
untuk memelukmu?
Papa hanya tersenyum sambil memberi nasehat
ini - itu, dan menyuruhmu untuk berhati-hati. .
Padahal Papa ingin sekali menangis seperti
Mama dan memelukmu erat-erat.
Yang Papa lakukan hanya menghapus sedikit
air mata di sudut matanya, dan menepuk pundakmu berkata "Jaga dirimu
baik-baik ya sayang".
Papa melakukan itu semua agar kamu KUAT...kuat
untuk pergi dan menjadi dewasa.
Disaat kamu butuh uang untuk membiayai uang
semester dan kehidupanmu, orang pertama yang mengerutkan kening adalah
Papa.
Papa pasti berusaha keras mencari jalan agar
anaknya bisa merasa sama dengan teman-temannya yang lain.
Ketika permintaanmu bukan lagi sekedar meminta
boneka baru, dan Papa tahu ia tidak bisa memberikan yang kamu inginkan...
Kata-kata yang keluar dari mulut Papa adalah: "Tidak.... Tidak bisa!"
Padahal dalam batin Papa, Ia sangat ingin
mengatakan "Iya sayang, nanti Papa belikan untukmu".
Tahukah kamu bahwa pada saat itu Papa merasa
gagal membuat anaknya tersenyum?
Saatnya kamu diwisuda sebagai seorang sarjana.
Papa adalah orang pertama yang berdiri dan
memberi tepuk tangan untukmu.
Papa akan tersenyum dengan bangga dan puas
melihat "putri kecilnya yang tidak manja berhasil tumbuh dewasa, dan
telah menjadi seseorang"
Sampai saat seorang teman Lelakimu datang
ke rumah dan meminta izin pada Papa untuk mengambilmu darinya.
Papa akan sangat berhati-hati memberikan
izin..
Karena Papa tahu.....
Bahwa lelaki itulah yang akan menggantikan
posisinya nanti.
Dan akhirnya....
Saat Papa melihatmu duduk di Panggung Pelaminan
bersama seseorang Lelaki yang di anggapnya pantas menggantikannya, Papa
pun tersenyum bahagia....
Apakah kamu mengetahui, di hari yang bahagia
itu Papa pergi kebelakang panggung sebentar, dan menangis?
Papa menangis karena papa sangat berbahagia,
kemudian Papa berdoa....
Dalam lirih doanya kepada Tuhan, Papa berkata:
"Ya Tuhan tugasku telah selesai dengan baik....
Putri kecilku yang lucu dan kucintai telah
menjadi wanita yang cantik....
Bahagiakanlah ia bersama suaminya..."
Setelah itu Papa hanya bisa menunggu kedatanganmu
bersama cucu-cucunya yang sesekali datang untuk menjenguk...
Dengan rambut yang telah dan semakin memutih....
Dan badan serta lengan yang tak lagi kuat
untuk menjagamu dari bahaya....
Papa telah menyelesaikan tugasnya....
Papa, Ayah, Bapak, atau Daddy kita...
Adalah sosok yang harus selalu terlihat kuat...
Bahkan ketika dia tidak kuat untuk tidak
menangis...
Dia harus terlihat tegas bahkan saat dia
ingin memanjakanmu. .
Dan dia adalah yang orang pertama yang selalu
yakin bahwa "KAMU BISA" dalam segala hal..
ALASAN
Di sebuah cafe, sepasang muda-mudi sedang berpacaran. Terjadilah percakapan berikut:
Pemudi: "Mengapa kamu menyukai saya? Mengapa kamu mencintaiku?"
Pemuda: "Aku tidak bisa memberitahu alasannya ... tapi aku benar-benar mencintaimu."
Pemudi: "Tuh kan! Kamu bahkan tidak bisa menceritakan alasannya ...
bagaimana kamu bisa bilang kamu menyukai aku? Bagaimana kamu bisa bilang kamu mencintaiku?"
Pemuda: "Aku benar-benar tidak tahu alasannya, tapi aku bisa membuktikan bahwa aku mencintaimu."
Pemudi: "BUKTI? TIDAK! Aku ingin kamu menceritakan alasannya. Pacarnya temanku aja bisa mengatakan padanya mengapa dia mencintainya tetapi kenapa kamu tidak?"
Pemuda: "Ok .. ok! Ehm ... karena kamu cantik, karena suara kamu lembut, karena kamu perhatian, karena kamu mencintai aku, karena kamu bijaksana, karena senyummu, karena setiap sentuhanmu."
Si Pemudi merasa sangat puas dengan jawabannya.
* * * * *
Sayangnya, beberapa hari kemudian, si Pemudi mengalami sebuah kecelakaan dan menjadi koma. Si Pemuda kemudian meletakkan sebuah surat di sisinya, dan berikut adalah isi suratnya:
"Darling, karena suara manis kamulah, aku mencintaimu ...
Sekarang Kamu bisa bicara? Tidak! Oleh karena itu aku tidak bisa mencintai kamu.
Karena perhatian dan kepedulian kamu, aku suka padamu.
Sekarang kamu tidak dapat menunjukkannya lagi, maka aku tidak bisa mencintai kamu. Karena senyumanmu, karena sentuhanmu, aku mencintaimu.
Sekarang bisakah kamu tersenyum? Sekarang bisakah kamu bergerak?
Tidak, oleh karena itu aku tidak bisa cinta padamu.
Jika cinta butuh alasan, seperti sekarang, tidak ada alasan bagiku untuk mencintai kamu lagi.
Apakah cinta butuh alasan? TIDAK!
Oleh karena itu, aku masih mencintaimu dan cinta tidak memerlukan alasan."
* * * *
Kadang-kadang yang terbaik dan hal-hal yang paling indah di dunia tidak dapat dilihat, tidak bisa disentuh, tetapi dapat dirasakan dalam hati.
Pemudi: "Mengapa kamu menyukai saya? Mengapa kamu mencintaiku?"
Pemuda: "Aku tidak bisa memberitahu alasannya ... tapi aku benar-benar mencintaimu."
Pemudi: "Tuh kan! Kamu bahkan tidak bisa menceritakan alasannya ...
bagaimana kamu bisa bilang kamu menyukai aku? Bagaimana kamu bisa bilang kamu mencintaiku?"
Pemuda: "Aku benar-benar tidak tahu alasannya, tapi aku bisa membuktikan bahwa aku mencintaimu."
Pemudi: "BUKTI? TIDAK! Aku ingin kamu menceritakan alasannya. Pacarnya temanku aja bisa mengatakan padanya mengapa dia mencintainya tetapi kenapa kamu tidak?"
Pemuda: "Ok .. ok! Ehm ... karena kamu cantik, karena suara kamu lembut, karena kamu perhatian, karena kamu mencintai aku, karena kamu bijaksana, karena senyummu, karena setiap sentuhanmu."
Si Pemudi merasa sangat puas dengan jawabannya.
* * * * *
Sayangnya, beberapa hari kemudian, si Pemudi mengalami sebuah kecelakaan dan menjadi koma. Si Pemuda kemudian meletakkan sebuah surat di sisinya, dan berikut adalah isi suratnya:
"Darling, karena suara manis kamulah, aku mencintaimu ...
Sekarang Kamu bisa bicara? Tidak! Oleh karena itu aku tidak bisa mencintai kamu.
Karena perhatian dan kepedulian kamu, aku suka padamu.
Sekarang kamu tidak dapat menunjukkannya lagi, maka aku tidak bisa mencintai kamu. Karena senyumanmu, karena sentuhanmu, aku mencintaimu.
Sekarang bisakah kamu tersenyum? Sekarang bisakah kamu bergerak?
Tidak, oleh karena itu aku tidak bisa cinta padamu.
Jika cinta butuh alasan, seperti sekarang, tidak ada alasan bagiku untuk mencintai kamu lagi.
Apakah cinta butuh alasan? TIDAK!
Oleh karena itu, aku masih mencintaimu dan cinta tidak memerlukan alasan."
* * * *
Kadang-kadang yang terbaik dan hal-hal yang paling indah di dunia tidak dapat dilihat, tidak bisa disentuh, tetapi dapat dirasakan dalam hati.
Tanda Kedewasaan pada Diri Seseorang
Para ahli psikologi dan psikiater sepakat, bahwa kesuksesan seseorang ditandai dengan berkembangnya prestasi serta kematangan emosinya. Meski tidak ada orang yang menyangkal pernyataan ini, tetapi sedikit orang yang mengetahui secara pasti tentang bagaimana penampilan seseorang yang dewasa atau matang itu, bagaimana cara berpakaian dan berdandannya, bagaimana caranya menghadapi tantangan, bagaimana tanggung jawabnya terhadap keluarga, dan bagaimana pandangan hidupnya tentang dunia ini. Yang jelas kematangan adalah sebuah modal yang sangat berharga.
Sesungguhnya apa yang disebut dengan kematangan atau kedewasaan itu?
Kedewasaan tidak selalu berkaitan dengan intelegensi. Banyak orang yang sangat brilian namun masih seperti kanak-kanak dalam hal penguasaan perasaannya, dalam keinginannya untuk memperoleh perhatian dan cinta dari setiap orang, dalam bagaimana caranya memperlakukan dirinya sendiri dan orang lain, dan dalam reaksinya terhadap emosi. Namun, ketinggian intelektual seseorang bukan halangan untuk mengembangkan kematangan emosi. Malah bukti-bukti menunjukkan keadaan yang sebaliknya. Orang yang lebih cerdas cenderung mempunyai perkembangan emosi yang lebih baik dan superior, serta mempunyai kemampuan menyesuaikan diri atau kematangan sosial yang lebih baik.
Kedewasaan pun bukan berarti kebahagiaan. Kematangan emosi tidak menjamin kebebasan dari kesulitan dan kesusahan. Kematangan emosi ditandai dengan bagaimana konflik dipecahkan, bagaimana kesulitan ditangani. Orang yang sudah dewasa memandang kesulitan-kesulitannya bukan sebagai malapetaka, tetapi sebagai tantangan-tantangan.
Apa sih kedewasaan/kematangan itu? Menurut kamus Webster, adalah suatu keadaan maju bergerak ke arah kesempurnaan. Definisi ini tidak menyebutkan preposisi "ke" melainkan "ke arah".
Ini berarti kita takkan pernah sampai pada kesempurnaan, namun kita dapat bergerak maju ke arah itu. Pergerakan maju ini unik bagi setiap individu. Dengan demikian kematangan bukan suatu keadaan yang statis, tapi lebih merupakan suatu keadaan "menjadi" atau state of becoming.
Pengertian ini menjelaskan, suatu kasus misal, mengapa seorang eksekutif bertindak sedemikian dewasa dalam pekerjaannya, namun sebagai suami dan ayah ia banyak berbuat salah. Tak ada seseorang yang sanggup bertindak dan bereaksi terhadap semua situasi dan aspek kehidupan dengan kematangan penuh seratus persen. Mereka dapat menangani banyak problem secara lebih dewasa. Berikut ini ada beberapa kualitas atau tanda mengenai kematangan seseorang. Namun, kewajiban setiap orang adalah menumbuhkan itu di dalam dirinya sendiri, dan menjadi bagian dari dirinya sendiri. Maka, orang yang dewasa/matang adalah:
1. Dia menerima dirinya sendiri
Eksekutif yang paling efektif adalah ia yang mempunyai pandangan atau penilaian baik terhadap kekuatan dan kelemahannya. Ia mampu melihat dan menilai dirinya secara obyektif dan realitis. Dengan demikian ia bisa memilih orang-orang yang mampu membantu mengkompensasi kelemahan dan kekurangannya. Ia pun dapat menggunakan kelebihan dan bakatnya secara efektif, dan bebas dari frustasi-frustasi yang biasa timbul karena keinginan untuk mencapai sesuatu yang sesungguhnya tidak ada dalam dirinya. Orang yang dewasa mengenal dirinya sendiri dengan lebih baik, dan senantiasa berusaha untuk menjadi lebih baik. Ia tidak berkepentingan untuk menandingi orang lain, melainkan berusaha mengembangkan dirinya sendiri. Dr. Abraham Maslow berkata, "Orang yang dewasa ingin menjadi yang terbaik sepanjang yang dapat diusahakannya. Dalam hal ini dia tidak merasa mempunyai pesaing-pesaing".
2. Dia menghargai orang lain
Eksekutif yang efektif pun bisa menerima keadaan orang lain yang berbeda-beda. Ia dikatakan dewasa jika mampu menghargai perbedaan itu, dan tidak mencoba membentuk orang lain berdasarkan citra dirinya sendiri. Ini bukan berarti bahwa orang yang matang itu berhati lemah, karena jika kelemahan-kelemahan yang ada dalam diri seseorang itu sudah sedemikian mengganggu tujuan secara keseluruhan, ia tak segan memberhentikannya. Ukuran yang paling tepat dan adil dalam hubungan dengan orang lain bahwa kita menghormati orang lain, adalah ketiadaan keinginan untuk memperalat atau memanipulasi orang lain tersebut.
3. Dia menerima tanggung jawab
Orang yang tidak dewasa akan menyesali nasib buruk mereka. Bahkan, mereka berpendapat bahwa nasib buruk itu disebabkan oleh orang lain. Sedangkan orang yang sudah dewasa malah mengenal dan menerima tanggung jawab dan pembatasan-pembatasan situasi dimana ia berbuat dan berada. Tanggung jawab adalah perasaan bahwa seseorang itu secara individu bertanggung jawab atas semua kegiatan, atau suatu dorongan untuk berbuat dan menyelesaikan apa yang harus dan patut diperbuat dan diselesaikan. Mempercayakan nasib baik pada atasan untuk memecahkan persoalan diri sendiri adalah tanda ketidakdewasaan. Rasa aman dan bahagia dicapai dengan mempunyai kepercayaan dalam tanggung jawab atas kehidupan sendiri.
4. Dia percaya pada diri sendiri
Seseorang yang matang menyambut dengan baik partisipasi dari orang lain, meski itu menyangkut pengambilan keputusan eksekutif, karena percaya pada dirinya sendiri. Ia memperoleh kepuasan yang mendalam dari prestasi dan hal-hal yang dilaksanakan oleh anak buahnya. Ia memperoleh perasaan bangga, bersama dengan kesadaran tanggung jawabnya, dan kesadaran bahwa anak buahnya itu tergantung pada kepemimpinannya. Sedangkan orang yang tidak dewasa justru akan merasa sakit bila ia dipindahkan dari peranan memberi perintah kepada peranan pembimbing, atau bila ia harus memberi tempat bagi bawahannya untuk tumbuh. Seseorang yang dewasa belajar memperoleh suatu perasaan kepuasaan untuk mengembangkan potensi orang lain.
5. Dia sabar
Seseorang yang dewasa belajar untuk menerima kenyataan, bahwa untuk beberapa persoalan memang tidak ada penyelesaian dan pemecahan yang mudah. Dia tidak akan menelan begitu saja saran yang pertama. Dia menghargai fakta-fakta dan sabar dalam mengumpulkan informasi sebelum memberikan saran bagi suatu pemecahan masalah. Bukan saja dia sabar, tetapi juga mengetahui bahwa adalah lebih baik mempunyai lebih dari satu rencana penyelesaian.
6. Dia mempunyai rasa humor
Orang yang dewasa berpendapat bahwa tertawa itu sehat. Tetapi dia tidak akan menertawakan atau merugikan/melukai perasaan orang lain. Dia juga tidak akan tertawa jika humor itu membuat orang lain jadi tampak bodoh. Humor semestinya merupakan bagian dari emosi yang sehat, yang memunculkan senyuman hangat dan pancaran yang manis. Perasaan humor anda menyatakan sikap anda terhadap orang lain. Orang yang dewasa menggunakan humor sebagai alat melicinkan ketegangan, bukan pemukul orang lain.
Diadaptasi dari "The Effective Psychology for Manager" oleh Mortimer R. Feinberg, Ph.D
Sesungguhnya apa yang disebut dengan kematangan atau kedewasaan itu?
Kedewasaan tidak selalu berkaitan dengan intelegensi. Banyak orang yang sangat brilian namun masih seperti kanak-kanak dalam hal penguasaan perasaannya, dalam keinginannya untuk memperoleh perhatian dan cinta dari setiap orang, dalam bagaimana caranya memperlakukan dirinya sendiri dan orang lain, dan dalam reaksinya terhadap emosi. Namun, ketinggian intelektual seseorang bukan halangan untuk mengembangkan kematangan emosi. Malah bukti-bukti menunjukkan keadaan yang sebaliknya. Orang yang lebih cerdas cenderung mempunyai perkembangan emosi yang lebih baik dan superior, serta mempunyai kemampuan menyesuaikan diri atau kematangan sosial yang lebih baik.
Kedewasaan pun bukan berarti kebahagiaan. Kematangan emosi tidak menjamin kebebasan dari kesulitan dan kesusahan. Kematangan emosi ditandai dengan bagaimana konflik dipecahkan, bagaimana kesulitan ditangani. Orang yang sudah dewasa memandang kesulitan-kesulitannya bukan sebagai malapetaka, tetapi sebagai tantangan-tantangan.
Apa sih kedewasaan/kematangan itu? Menurut kamus Webster, adalah suatu keadaan maju bergerak ke arah kesempurnaan. Definisi ini tidak menyebutkan preposisi "ke" melainkan "ke arah".
Ini berarti kita takkan pernah sampai pada kesempurnaan, namun kita dapat bergerak maju ke arah itu. Pergerakan maju ini unik bagi setiap individu. Dengan demikian kematangan bukan suatu keadaan yang statis, tapi lebih merupakan suatu keadaan "menjadi" atau state of becoming.
Pengertian ini menjelaskan, suatu kasus misal, mengapa seorang eksekutif bertindak sedemikian dewasa dalam pekerjaannya, namun sebagai suami dan ayah ia banyak berbuat salah. Tak ada seseorang yang sanggup bertindak dan bereaksi terhadap semua situasi dan aspek kehidupan dengan kematangan penuh seratus persen. Mereka dapat menangani banyak problem secara lebih dewasa. Berikut ini ada beberapa kualitas atau tanda mengenai kematangan seseorang. Namun, kewajiban setiap orang adalah menumbuhkan itu di dalam dirinya sendiri, dan menjadi bagian dari dirinya sendiri. Maka, orang yang dewasa/matang adalah:
1. Dia menerima dirinya sendiri
Eksekutif yang paling efektif adalah ia yang mempunyai pandangan atau penilaian baik terhadap kekuatan dan kelemahannya. Ia mampu melihat dan menilai dirinya secara obyektif dan realitis. Dengan demikian ia bisa memilih orang-orang yang mampu membantu mengkompensasi kelemahan dan kekurangannya. Ia pun dapat menggunakan kelebihan dan bakatnya secara efektif, dan bebas dari frustasi-frustasi yang biasa timbul karena keinginan untuk mencapai sesuatu yang sesungguhnya tidak ada dalam dirinya. Orang yang dewasa mengenal dirinya sendiri dengan lebih baik, dan senantiasa berusaha untuk menjadi lebih baik. Ia tidak berkepentingan untuk menandingi orang lain, melainkan berusaha mengembangkan dirinya sendiri. Dr. Abraham Maslow berkata, "Orang yang dewasa ingin menjadi yang terbaik sepanjang yang dapat diusahakannya. Dalam hal ini dia tidak merasa mempunyai pesaing-pesaing".
2. Dia menghargai orang lain
Eksekutif yang efektif pun bisa menerima keadaan orang lain yang berbeda-beda. Ia dikatakan dewasa jika mampu menghargai perbedaan itu, dan tidak mencoba membentuk orang lain berdasarkan citra dirinya sendiri. Ini bukan berarti bahwa orang yang matang itu berhati lemah, karena jika kelemahan-kelemahan yang ada dalam diri seseorang itu sudah sedemikian mengganggu tujuan secara keseluruhan, ia tak segan memberhentikannya. Ukuran yang paling tepat dan adil dalam hubungan dengan orang lain bahwa kita menghormati orang lain, adalah ketiadaan keinginan untuk memperalat atau memanipulasi orang lain tersebut.
3. Dia menerima tanggung jawab
Orang yang tidak dewasa akan menyesali nasib buruk mereka. Bahkan, mereka berpendapat bahwa nasib buruk itu disebabkan oleh orang lain. Sedangkan orang yang sudah dewasa malah mengenal dan menerima tanggung jawab dan pembatasan-pembatasan situasi dimana ia berbuat dan berada. Tanggung jawab adalah perasaan bahwa seseorang itu secara individu bertanggung jawab atas semua kegiatan, atau suatu dorongan untuk berbuat dan menyelesaikan apa yang harus dan patut diperbuat dan diselesaikan. Mempercayakan nasib baik pada atasan untuk memecahkan persoalan diri sendiri adalah tanda ketidakdewasaan. Rasa aman dan bahagia dicapai dengan mempunyai kepercayaan dalam tanggung jawab atas kehidupan sendiri.
4. Dia percaya pada diri sendiri
Seseorang yang matang menyambut dengan baik partisipasi dari orang lain, meski itu menyangkut pengambilan keputusan eksekutif, karena percaya pada dirinya sendiri. Ia memperoleh kepuasan yang mendalam dari prestasi dan hal-hal yang dilaksanakan oleh anak buahnya. Ia memperoleh perasaan bangga, bersama dengan kesadaran tanggung jawabnya, dan kesadaran bahwa anak buahnya itu tergantung pada kepemimpinannya. Sedangkan orang yang tidak dewasa justru akan merasa sakit bila ia dipindahkan dari peranan memberi perintah kepada peranan pembimbing, atau bila ia harus memberi tempat bagi bawahannya untuk tumbuh. Seseorang yang dewasa belajar memperoleh suatu perasaan kepuasaan untuk mengembangkan potensi orang lain.
5. Dia sabar
Seseorang yang dewasa belajar untuk menerima kenyataan, bahwa untuk beberapa persoalan memang tidak ada penyelesaian dan pemecahan yang mudah. Dia tidak akan menelan begitu saja saran yang pertama. Dia menghargai fakta-fakta dan sabar dalam mengumpulkan informasi sebelum memberikan saran bagi suatu pemecahan masalah. Bukan saja dia sabar, tetapi juga mengetahui bahwa adalah lebih baik mempunyai lebih dari satu rencana penyelesaian.
6. Dia mempunyai rasa humor
Orang yang dewasa berpendapat bahwa tertawa itu sehat. Tetapi dia tidak akan menertawakan atau merugikan/melukai perasaan orang lain. Dia juga tidak akan tertawa jika humor itu membuat orang lain jadi tampak bodoh. Humor semestinya merupakan bagian dari emosi yang sehat, yang memunculkan senyuman hangat dan pancaran yang manis. Perasaan humor anda menyatakan sikap anda terhadap orang lain. Orang yang dewasa menggunakan humor sebagai alat melicinkan ketegangan, bukan pemukul orang lain.
Diadaptasi dari "The Effective Psychology for Manager" oleh Mortimer R. Feinberg, Ph.D
Interview with God
Men : Selamat Pagi Tuhan, sekiranya Tuhan punya waktu sedikit aku ingin bicara.
GOD : Ooo.. WaktuKU adalah KEKEKALAN, tidak ada masalah tentang Waktu.
Apa pertanyaanmu?
Men : Thanks.. Apa yang paling mengherankan bagiMU tentang kami manusia?
GOD : Hahaha.. Kalian itu makhluk yang aneh.
Pertama, suka mencemaskan masa depan, sampai lupa hari ini.
Ke2, kalian hidup seolah olah tidak bakal mati.
Ke3, kalian cepat bosan sebagai anak-anak dan terburu-buru ingin dewasa. Namun setelah dewasa rindu lagi jadi anak2 : suka bertengkar, ngambek, dan ribut karena soal2 sepele.
Lalu Ke4, kalian rela kehilangan kesehatan demi mengejar uang, tetapi membayarnya kembali untuk mengembalikan kesehatan itu.
alHal- h begitulah yang membuat hidup kalian susah.
Men : Lantas apa nasihat Tuhan agar kami bisa hidup BAHAGIA ?
GOD : Sebenarnya semua nasihat sudah pernah diberikan. Inilah satu lagi keanehan kalian : Suka melupakan nasihatKU. Baiklah KU ulangi lagi ya beberapa yang terpenting
1. Kalian harus sadar bahwa mengejar rejeki adalah sebuah kesalahan. Yang seharusnya kalian lakukan ialah menata diri agar kalian layak dikucuri rejeki. Jadi jangan mengejar rejeki, tetapi biarlah rejeki yang mengejar kalian.
2. Ingat : "siapa" yang kalian miliki itu lebih berharga dari pada "apa" yang kalian punyai. Perbanyaklah teman, kurangi musuh.
3. Jangan bodoh dengan cemburu dan membandingkan yang dimiliki orang lain. Melainkan bersyukurlah dengan apa yang sudah kalian terima. Khususnya, kenalilah talenta dan potensi yang kalian miliki lalu kembangkanlah itu sebaik-baiknya, maka kalian akan menjadi manusia unggul. Otomatis Rejeki yg akan mengejar kalian.
4. Ingat orang yg disebut Kaya bukanlah dia yg berhasil mengumpulkan yg paling banyak, tetapi dia yg paling "sedikit" memerlukan, sehingga masih sanggup memberi kepada sesamanya. Ok ?
Yang terpenting buat kamu yang sedang membaca ini, mengerti dan bertindaklah.
Ingat janji ini : "AKU Sekali-kali Tidak Akan Meninggalkanmu."
GOD : Ooo.. WaktuKU adalah KEKEKALAN, tidak ada masalah tentang Waktu.
Apa pertanyaanmu?
Men : Thanks.. Apa yang paling mengherankan bagiMU tentang kami manusia?
GOD : Hahaha.. Kalian itu makhluk yang aneh.
Pertama, suka mencemaskan masa depan, sampai lupa hari ini.
Ke2, kalian hidup seolah olah tidak bakal mati.
Ke3, kalian cepat bosan sebagai anak-anak dan terburu-buru ingin dewasa. Namun setelah dewasa rindu lagi jadi anak2 : suka bertengkar, ngambek, dan ribut karena soal2 sepele.
Lalu Ke4, kalian rela kehilangan kesehatan demi mengejar uang, tetapi membayarnya kembali untuk mengembalikan kesehatan itu.
alHal- h begitulah yang membuat hidup kalian susah.
Men : Lantas apa nasihat Tuhan agar kami bisa hidup BAHAGIA ?
GOD : Sebenarnya semua nasihat sudah pernah diberikan. Inilah satu lagi keanehan kalian : Suka melupakan nasihatKU. Baiklah KU ulangi lagi ya beberapa yang terpenting
1. Kalian harus sadar bahwa mengejar rejeki adalah sebuah kesalahan. Yang seharusnya kalian lakukan ialah menata diri agar kalian layak dikucuri rejeki. Jadi jangan mengejar rejeki, tetapi biarlah rejeki yang mengejar kalian.
2. Ingat : "siapa" yang kalian miliki itu lebih berharga dari pada "apa" yang kalian punyai. Perbanyaklah teman, kurangi musuh.
3. Jangan bodoh dengan cemburu dan membandingkan yang dimiliki orang lain. Melainkan bersyukurlah dengan apa yang sudah kalian terima. Khususnya, kenalilah talenta dan potensi yang kalian miliki lalu kembangkanlah itu sebaik-baiknya, maka kalian akan menjadi manusia unggul. Otomatis Rejeki yg akan mengejar kalian.
4. Ingat orang yg disebut Kaya bukanlah dia yg berhasil mengumpulkan yg paling banyak, tetapi dia yg paling "sedikit" memerlukan, sehingga masih sanggup memberi kepada sesamanya. Ok ?
Yang terpenting buat kamu yang sedang membaca ini, mengerti dan bertindaklah.
Ingat janji ini : "AKU Sekali-kali Tidak Akan Meninggalkanmu."
Steamed Brownies
Ingredients:
Telur 6 butir
Gula 225 gram
Vanili secukupnya
Garam secukupnya
Emulsifier 1/2 sdt, boleh TBM/SP
Terigu 125 gram, diayak
Coklat bubuk 50 gram, ayak, aduk rata dg terigu
Minyak sayur 175 ml
Dark cooking coklat 100 gram, lelehkan, campur dg minyak
Susu kental manis coklat 75 ml
Cara bikin:
1. Kocok telur dan gula hingga mengembang, masukkan campuran tepung terigu dan cokelat bubuk. Aduk rata.
2. Masukkan campuran minyak dan DCC, aduk rata. Sisihkan sepertiga adonan, tambahkan susu kental manis, aduk rata.
3. Bagi 2 adonan yang tidak ditambahkan susu kental, bagian I kukus 10 menit, tambahkan adonan dengan susu kental, kukus lagi 10 menit, terakhir masukkan adonan sisa tanpa susu kental, kukus sekitar 20 menit. Tes kematangan kue dengan tusuk gigi, pastikan tidak ada adonan yang menempel. Angkat.
4. Hias dengan gula halus. Enak dimakan hangat2.
Oya, aduknya kalau pakai mixer teksturnya lebih lembut, kalau pakai spatula agak kasar, ada gumpalan2 kecilnya. Kalau air dari uap kukusan jatuh ke kue, permukaannya jadi bergelombang seperti yang saya buat.
Mushroom Steamed Rice
Serving size: 4
Ingredients:
Kaldu
1 sdm kaldu ayam
1 liter air
3 sdm kecap ikan
garam secukupnya
Jamur
3 siung bawang putih, cincang halus
100 gram jamur merang, rendam dalam air panas 10 menit, cuci bersih dan potong jadi empat
2 sdm saus tiram
1 sdm minyak wijen
6 sdm kecap manis
5 sdm kecap ikan
1 sdt lada halus
minyak secukupnya untuk menumis
Nasi Tim
250 gr beras
3 siung bawang putih, cincang halus
1 sdm kecap asin
Directions:
Kaldu Ayam
Rebus kaldu ayam, kecap ikan, garam dalam 1 liter air hingga mendidih.
Jamur
Tumis bawang putih hingga harum. Masukkan potongan jamur, saus tiram, kecap manis, kecap asin, lada, minyak wijen. Aduk rata dan sisihkan
Nasi Tim
Tumis bawang putih hingga harum, masukkan beras, aduk rata, tambahkan kecap asin, aduk rata sekitar 2 menit, angkat.
Masukkan tumisan jamur ke dalam loyang, ratakan, lalu tambahkan beras, tuang kaldu ayam sebatas 1,5 buku jari diatas beras, kukus hingga matang.
Corn Cream Soup
Ingredients:
1 kaleng jagung muda manis
2 siung bawang merah
3 siung bawang putih
2 sdm tepung maizena
1 sdt garam halus
1/2 sdt lada bubuk
1 sdt kaldu ayam
1 lembar roti tawar
daun parsley secukupnya
Directions:
1. Tumis bawang merah dan bawang putih yang sudah dicincang halus atau diblender.
2. Masukkan jagung muda manis yang sudah diblender(jangan terlalu halus)
3. Tambahkan garam halus dan lada, aduk rata.
4. Masukkan 2 gelas air panas, aduk rata(masak jagung sampai matang),tambahkan kaldu ayam.
5. Masukkan tepung maizena sedikit-sedikit sambil terus diaduk rata dengan api kecil sampai mengental,angkat dan taburi daun parsley yang sudah diiris halus.
6. Gunting roti tawar bentuk persegi kecil, oven sampai kering. Susun diatas sup.
Rhumball
Serving size: 10
Ingredients:
Biskuit marie 2 pack
Susu kental manis coklat 1 kaleng
Rhum 4 sdm
Meises secukupnya
Directions:
1. Biskuit marie dihancurkan, diblender sampai halus.
2. Tambahkan susu kental manis coklat sambil diulen dengan tangan kosong. Tambahkan terus susu nya sampai kira2 bisa dipulung. Lebih baik lebih susunya daripada kurang, karena nanti didinginin bakal mengeras.
3. Tambahkan rhum secukupnya. Sesuai selera saja,saya pribadi suka wanginya. Uleni lagi.
4. Setelah rata,bungkus tangan dengan plastik supaya adonan tidak lengket di tangan. Bentuk bulat2, gulingkan di meises.
5. Letakkan di cup kertas. Tata di piring, masukkan ke kulkas sampai mengeras.
Jadi deh =) yummy...
Practical Lessons from Proverbs
After we learn about the description of Proverbs 31 Woman, there are few lessons that can be a guidance to our daily life, starting today :)
1. Get up early – you will be amazed at how much time you add to your day simply by getting up when the alarm goes off the first time. Getting up before the sun rises will also let you find that quiet time.
2. Get plenty of rest – turn off the television, computer and other electronic noise. Let your mind rest before you put go to bed. Your sleep will be better and you will wake up the next day more rested.
3. Reach out to help – alleviating others burden will alleviate ours as well.
4. Find the positive – sometimes it can be tough to find the silver lining, but it always exists.
5. Be bold – you will never walk on water if you do not get out of the boat.
6. Be prepared for opportunity – when the door opens, be ready to go. Plan for action so you can take action when opportunity arises.
7. Look good – the advertisements showing the woman in a dress and pearls was not as far off the mark as you might have hoped. Looking good will help you feel good.
8. Keep on keeping on – it is important to rest but it is also important not to get caught up in idleness. Running on idle is NOT good for the engine. Do something constructive.
9. Encourage others – being an encouragement not only makes you a joy to others but will end up helping you feel joyful about what you are doing.
10. Be thankful for the provision – you may not have all that you want or desire but you have the most important things. Be thankful for what you do have and you will discover that you have more and more of the things that you want as well.
11. Look after your home – being a good steward means more than giving a tithe. It requires taking care of all, including making your home “guest ready” every day.
12. Meet the needs of those around you – there are days when you do NOT want to do things, but do them any way just because you have love for the ones you are serving.
13. Work with your hands – build something, make something, bake something or write something.
14. Be helpful – look for ways that you can help your family, your neighbors or the strangers. Even little things can be big.
15. Put God first – no matter how busy times get, be sure to make time for God. Spending time in prayer and study in the morning, throughout the day and just before bed will keep your heart, mind and body centered.
There is so much to learn from the Proverbs. Let the principles help us find our path for life.
1. Get up early – you will be amazed at how much time you add to your day simply by getting up when the alarm goes off the first time. Getting up before the sun rises will also let you find that quiet time.
2. Get plenty of rest – turn off the television, computer and other electronic noise. Let your mind rest before you put go to bed. Your sleep will be better and you will wake up the next day more rested.
3. Reach out to help – alleviating others burden will alleviate ours as well.
4. Find the positive – sometimes it can be tough to find the silver lining, but it always exists.
5. Be bold – you will never walk on water if you do not get out of the boat.
6. Be prepared for opportunity – when the door opens, be ready to go. Plan for action so you can take action when opportunity arises.
7. Look good – the advertisements showing the woman in a dress and pearls was not as far off the mark as you might have hoped. Looking good will help you feel good.
8. Keep on keeping on – it is important to rest but it is also important not to get caught up in idleness. Running on idle is NOT good for the engine. Do something constructive.
9. Encourage others – being an encouragement not only makes you a joy to others but will end up helping you feel joyful about what you are doing.
10. Be thankful for the provision – you may not have all that you want or desire but you have the most important things. Be thankful for what you do have and you will discover that you have more and more of the things that you want as well.
11. Look after your home – being a good steward means more than giving a tithe. It requires taking care of all, including making your home “guest ready” every day.
12. Meet the needs of those around you – there are days when you do NOT want to do things, but do them any way just because you have love for the ones you are serving.
13. Work with your hands – build something, make something, bake something or write something.
14. Be helpful – look for ways that you can help your family, your neighbors or the strangers. Even little things can be big.
15. Put God first – no matter how busy times get, be sure to make time for God. Spending time in prayer and study in the morning, throughout the day and just before bed will keep your heart, mind and body centered.
There is so much to learn from the Proverbs. Let the principles help us find our path for life.
The Proverbs 31 Woman
For thousands of years, God-fearing women have looked to the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 as their ideal. Of what value can this ancient poem be to the women today? It is more relevant than you might at first expect — although it is also too good to be true.
"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies." The Hebrew word chayil, means a wife of valor — a strong, capable woman with strong convictions. This description does not agree with weakness and passivity.
"Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value." Her husband trusts her management of their resources. Her industriousness adds to the family income.
"She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life." This woman does not do right only when it is convenient and profitable. Her character is steady. She is reliable and dependable.
"She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands." This woman enjoys working so much that she plans ahead for what she needs in order to accomplish her responsibilities.
"She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar." This woman who goes the extra mile for quality items is not satisfied being mediocre.
"She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls." Though the woman described here has servants to take care of the house, she understands that good managers have a responsibility to take care of those under their authority.
"She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard." Every woman doesn’t have to go into real estate and planting— the principle here is that this woman uses her mind to analyze and strategize. Her goals are not only short term — but long-term.
"She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks." We get a picture of a woman who keeps herself healthy and strong by proper diet,rest and exercise.
"She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night." It is sure that her responsibilities are well taken care of.
"In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers." The example she sets is one of skill and industriousness. Whether this woman would be a programmer, a pianist, an accountant, she develops her talents.
"She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy." This woman shows personal concern. She visits the sick, comforts the lonely, and gives food to those in need.
"When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet." Providing clothing for the family is one of her responsibilities. She has her plans.
"She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple." This woman has high standards and dresses properly for the occasion.
"Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land." This man does not have to spend time solving problems at home, and his success in the social world comes partly from her support.
"She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes." This woman runs a business from her home. Her efforts and industry add to the family income.
"Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come" This woman benefits each day from her actions.
"She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue." This woman reads and knows what she is talking about.
"She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness." She is an organized, energetic person who carries out her responsibilities.
"Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her." She is honored in her home.
"Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." High praise for this extraordinary woman — a role model for all women.
"Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Here is the key to this woman’s effectiveness. Her priorities are determined by God’s will, not her own.
"Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate." This woman is actively doing good works.
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The woman described in Proverbs is a portrait of ideal womanhood. The focus of this portrait is a woman’s relationship with God, not her specific abilities. The Proverbs 31 woman realizes that regardless of her skills or all her accomplishments, her strength comes from God.
Who is a virtuous woman today? Proverbs 31 says that it is the woman who puts God first.
Cultures change, but this woman’s godly character is still highly applicable.
God bless you :)
"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies." The Hebrew word chayil, means a wife of valor — a strong, capable woman with strong convictions. This description does not agree with weakness and passivity.
"Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value." Her husband trusts her management of their resources. Her industriousness adds to the family income.
"She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life." This woman does not do right only when it is convenient and profitable. Her character is steady. She is reliable and dependable.
"She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands." This woman enjoys working so much that she plans ahead for what she needs in order to accomplish her responsibilities.
"She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar." This woman who goes the extra mile for quality items is not satisfied being mediocre.
"She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls." Though the woman described here has servants to take care of the house, she understands that good managers have a responsibility to take care of those under their authority.
"She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard." Every woman doesn’t have to go into real estate and planting— the principle here is that this woman uses her mind to analyze and strategize. Her goals are not only short term — but long-term.
"She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks." We get a picture of a woman who keeps herself healthy and strong by proper diet,rest and exercise.
"She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night." It is sure that her responsibilities are well taken care of.
"In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers." The example she sets is one of skill and industriousness. Whether this woman would be a programmer, a pianist, an accountant, she develops her talents.
"She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy." This woman shows personal concern. She visits the sick, comforts the lonely, and gives food to those in need.
"When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet." Providing clothing for the family is one of her responsibilities. She has her plans.
"She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple." This woman has high standards and dresses properly for the occasion.
"Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land." This man does not have to spend time solving problems at home, and his success in the social world comes partly from her support.
"She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes." This woman runs a business from her home. Her efforts and industry add to the family income.
"Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come" This woman benefits each day from her actions.
"She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue." This woman reads and knows what she is talking about.
"She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness." She is an organized, energetic person who carries out her responsibilities.
"Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her." She is honored in her home.
"Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." High praise for this extraordinary woman — a role model for all women.
"Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Here is the key to this woman’s effectiveness. Her priorities are determined by God’s will, not her own.
"Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate." This woman is actively doing good works.
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The woman described in Proverbs is a portrait of ideal womanhood. The focus of this portrait is a woman’s relationship with God, not her specific abilities. The Proverbs 31 woman realizes that regardless of her skills or all her accomplishments, her strength comes from God.
Who is a virtuous woman today? Proverbs 31 says that it is the woman who puts God first.
Cultures change, but this woman’s godly character is still highly applicable.
God bless you :)
Learning from Esther ( A Gift for Singles)
“Before a girl’s turn came to go in to King Xerxes, she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months in oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics. And this is how she would go to the king...”
Esther 2:12-13
I have always been amazed at the preparation Esther went through before she was able to come before King Xerxes. Would any of us want to go through twelve months of treatments before meeting the man of our dreams? Probably not.
As Esther had to be prepared before she could be a queen, woman must be prepared before she can fulfill the most important and difficult callings in life - marriage and motherhood. Esther had to learn the ways of the kingdom, intellectual, and emotional challenges of high position before she could wear the title. In the same way, the single Christian woman must learn the ways of the Kingdom of Heaven before she meet someone that God is preparing for her. She must be prepared intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.
Singleness is not a waste of time, but a time that God has set aside especially for us, to make us become what He wants to be, and to use us in ways that might be impossible after a relationship. Singleness is a time to cultivate character, so that we can offer to our future partner more than just a pretty face.
It is a wonderful thing when God blesses us with a partner. That special someone who is “just perfect” in that he/she has been carefully and thoughtfully designed by God.
By no means is it a tragedy to be a single, but the world continuously says that it is. One of the lies is that if you do not “have someone” or are not “actively looking”, there is something wrong with you. You should not be looking for the man of your choice, but should be waiting on the man of God’s choice. And when he/she comes, it will not be past experiences that will make your relationship work, but past purity, and godliness.
God knows exactly what you need and He even knows the desires of your heart better than you do. God loves surprises. He does not want you to be looking for your partner, He wants to bring him/her to you, and probably at a time you least expect it. If you disobey this advice, as so many people before you, and take it upon yourself to look for a mate, you may find someone, but someone you find will not be the right one.
As human, our nature desires the companionship of opposite gender. This is from God and therefore good. But at the same time, we are wrong to think that death will be the result if this need is not fulfilled. We can survive without companionship, at least until God has done His perfect work in us. Remember, God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.
There are two primary reasons why someone desperately needs someone else. First, it is because we do not know God as we should. Is God not the God of all comfort? Then why do we complain about how lonely we feel? If we seek to be attached because we feel that a partner will fill our lives or will make us complete, we will be disappointed . If we are not filled by God now and complete in Christ in the present, then not even a marriage will able to change our emptiness.
The second reason for desperately needing someone in our lives is selfishness. When we need someone to feel loved, then we are wanting relationship for wrong reasons. Relationship should not be looked upon as an opportunity to get our needs met, but as an opportunity to meet the needs of another. If we have not learned to take our own needs to God, then we will probably overwhelm our partners with our needs and unaware of his.
Dear friends, being single, like being attached should be considered a very special and enjoyable time in God. Being single is a time to learn of God and of ourselves, a time to discover who we are in Christ, and to grow in Christlikeness. It is a time to invovle in good works and ministry to others. Being single has a magic of its own that should be enjoyed in its time because once passed it may not return.
Every season in life has a beauty of its own. My prayer for all single Christians is that we might enjoy our time. That we might be demanding and not settle for anything less than the perfect will of God. That we might wait patiently on God who is the giver of every good and perfect gift.
Esther 2:12-13
I have always been amazed at the preparation Esther went through before she was able to come before King Xerxes. Would any of us want to go through twelve months of treatments before meeting the man of our dreams? Probably not.
As Esther had to be prepared before she could be a queen, woman must be prepared before she can fulfill the most important and difficult callings in life - marriage and motherhood. Esther had to learn the ways of the kingdom, intellectual, and emotional challenges of high position before she could wear the title. In the same way, the single Christian woman must learn the ways of the Kingdom of Heaven before she meet someone that God is preparing for her. She must be prepared intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.
Singleness is not a waste of time, but a time that God has set aside especially for us, to make us become what He wants to be, and to use us in ways that might be impossible after a relationship. Singleness is a time to cultivate character, so that we can offer to our future partner more than just a pretty face.
It is a wonderful thing when God blesses us with a partner. That special someone who is “just perfect” in that he/she has been carefully and thoughtfully designed by God.
By no means is it a tragedy to be a single, but the world continuously says that it is. One of the lies is that if you do not “have someone” or are not “actively looking”, there is something wrong with you. You should not be looking for the man of your choice, but should be waiting on the man of God’s choice. And when he/she comes, it will not be past experiences that will make your relationship work, but past purity, and godliness.
God knows exactly what you need and He even knows the desires of your heart better than you do. God loves surprises. He does not want you to be looking for your partner, He wants to bring him/her to you, and probably at a time you least expect it. If you disobey this advice, as so many people before you, and take it upon yourself to look for a mate, you may find someone, but someone you find will not be the right one.
As human, our nature desires the companionship of opposite gender. This is from God and therefore good. But at the same time, we are wrong to think that death will be the result if this need is not fulfilled. We can survive without companionship, at least until God has done His perfect work in us. Remember, God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.
There are two primary reasons why someone desperately needs someone else. First, it is because we do not know God as we should. Is God not the God of all comfort? Then why do we complain about how lonely we feel? If we seek to be attached because we feel that a partner will fill our lives or will make us complete, we will be disappointed . If we are not filled by God now and complete in Christ in the present, then not even a marriage will able to change our emptiness.
The second reason for desperately needing someone in our lives is selfishness. When we need someone to feel loved, then we are wanting relationship for wrong reasons. Relationship should not be looked upon as an opportunity to get our needs met, but as an opportunity to meet the needs of another. If we have not learned to take our own needs to God, then we will probably overwhelm our partners with our needs and unaware of his.
Dear friends, being single, like being attached should be considered a very special and enjoyable time in God. Being single is a time to learn of God and of ourselves, a time to discover who we are in Christ, and to grow in Christlikeness. It is a time to invovle in good works and ministry to others. Being single has a magic of its own that should be enjoyed in its time because once passed it may not return.
Every season in life has a beauty of its own. My prayer for all single Christians is that we might enjoy our time. That we might be demanding and not settle for anything less than the perfect will of God. That we might wait patiently on God who is the giver of every good and perfect gift.
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